Friend Zone

'A parting word, if I may, to those who guard the borders of Friendship: If a close friend tells you that he or she has special tingly feelings for you, take a moment to consider the statement before rejecting the visa application. Consider what it took, how much of an emotional buildup went into that declaration. Think about the courage that needed to be built up in order to decide to formulate the words in his or her head, and how many times the person didn’t tell you, hoping the feelings would go away. Only when those words become so strong that they could not be contained did they become actual vocalized proclamation, the venturing forth onto an unsteady emotional limb and attempting to cross the border. So do these friends a favor. Don’t treat their announcement as a joke, even to allay tension that you feel. Don’t laugh. If you don’t feel the same way, that’s fine. Or at least it will be fine, eventually. But at least respect us enough, as the friends you say you want us to remain, consider the proposal—for a minute, or five—before you delete us.'

Source from: Esther D. Kustanowitz


Being in the friend zone always scared people out. Moreover, if you start fall head over heels for your friend... To cross the friendship line is like making a mistake because we often afraid we will lose the person then as a friend. I personally agree with what she wrote above... Fear of rejection, it always traumatized people. But the most important thing is to respect when someone confess that he/she likes you... They had gathered all courage or maybe can't sleep at all just to say the word 'I like you'. It is not so simple as that. You can reject her politely and still maintain the friendship as well... I got my own experience on this. Thanks to him because being truthful to me and we are still best friends up to now... My feeling for him? Gone with the wind..Haha... Fallen for a friend is a hardest thing for me as a normal human being. So does other people... Sp please, be clear and respect. It's not a hard thing to do :-)